My Bad Attitude Made Me Loose The Argument
Get excited, because I’m about to
give you an inside look into my marriage. Yes, you’re privileged, because you’re
about to hear one of our arguments. You’re welcome. J First, let me start off by
bragging on my hub, so I don’t seem like some kind of bitter wife who doesn’t
appreciate her hub. He’s really amazing. He has a super odd work schedule, and still
manages to work out 4 times a week. Most times, he goes to the gym early in the
morning before work. On those early
mornings, he even takes out the dog. This is important, because if you have a
sassy dog like mine, you know that they don’t like to be kept waiting. SO, if
she doesn’t get taken out… well, let’s just say I’ll have some cleaning to do. (If you enjoy these personal stories about my life, sign up for my email list here.)
Obviously, on his off days he likes
to sleep in. I’m completely fine with that. He’s earned it. But sometimes he’ll
still get up early to go to the gym, and take the dog out. He just decides
based on how he feels that day, so I never know if he’s going to stay in bed,
or go to the gym. Are you following me? On the days that he does decide to
sleep in, all I ask is that he tells me, so I can take her out. That’s it! I’m
more than willing to get up and take her out, but just TELL me! I don’t want to
wake up to a not-so-welcomed surprise. If you know what I mean! Well, of course
this is where the argument comes in.
As you can imagine, we’ve had our
fair share of “vigorous conversations” about this topic. Well, one day, we’re
in bed and I wake up to see my hub knocked out next to me. I whisper to him,
“Did you take out Rory?” He sleepily shakes his head no, and he’s off to sleep,
again. I pop out of bed, all huffy with an attitude, ready to take her out
myself. I throw some clothes on, and head downstairs. But right before I do, I
take a detour back into the room and declare, “You know, all I ask is that you
tell me if you’re not gonna take her out! I mean, it’s so much more stressful
for me when you don’t. Honestly, I just don’t even know why that’s so hard.”
Mind you, I’m NOT a morning person, and not that person who’s fully awake as
soon as their eyes open. So, I’m pretty grumpalicious, as you can see. Not my
normal self. Plus, this had happened a couple of times in the recent past. I
wasn’t yelling, but I definitely had an attitude. Not something anyone would
want to wake up to. Well, he gets up and says, “I actually was JUST about to
get up and go to the gym, right now. You know I always take her out before
the gym.” He gets out the bed, putting his clothes on all rough, clearly irritated.
So, I got back in bed feeling silly, and then of course had to apologize before
he left. (Email me at Driana@WeddingNightBliss.com to have me speak to your church young adult, life group, or marriage group.)
Now, I wasn’t feeling silly because
he proved me wrong. I was feeling silly that I let myself handle the situation
like that. Because, my actions made him win the argument. Lol I don’t typically
get caught up in who won or lost an argument. If I’m wrong, I don’t like it,
but I can take it. But this time bothered me because I am 99.99999% sure that
he was not about to go to nobody’s gym that day. But because I opened my big
mouth, and was rude about it, he was able to act like the scorned one. Had I
just played it cool, and let him sleep in (which I’m 99.99999% sure he was
gonna do), I could’ve brought it up later. And I wouldn’t have been the one at
fault.
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I want to be clear, that marriage
is not about who’s right or wrong. And like I said, I don’t typically get
caught up in that. But it’s always nice to not be the one at fault, right? Lol
But in this case, he pulled the W. I was completely in the wrong. All because I
didn’t communicate well. Watch the video to the right, with a great premarital/marriage
counseling tip for communication. Don’t let your attitude make you lose the
argument, like me. (I kid, I kid. No keeping score!)
Driana, The Blissful Wife
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