Did God Really Tell You He's The One???

         When I was 18, I was in a relationship that I have no business being in. When I first met him, he didn’t have a car. (It wasn’t a huge deal to me because, I was only 18. Although, he was 2 years older than me.) 2 years later, he still didn’t have a car. Over those 2 years he had a gazillion jobs, because he couldn’t keep one. Something always happened for him to get “unfairly” fired. And when he got mad, he got REALLY mad. He never put his hands on me, but he did talk down to me. And he had a terrifying way of twisting my mind to make it seem like he was right, when he absolutely wasn’t. (If you’d like to hear more personal stories, like this, about me sign up here to get on my Single or Dating email list.)

          But when times were good, they were good. He loved to spoil me (when he had money). Lol He made it very known to everyone that he loved me to the core. He loved showing me affection, and was proud of me and our relationship. He never tried to “front” when his guy friends came around. As you may notice from this description, he liked to be the center of attention. He had the kind of personality that just sucked you in. Everyone loved him!

          This is part of the reason why it was so hard for me to finally break up with him. He made it so hard to stay mad at him. Especially, when everyone else thought that he was the best catch ever. I wish I would have been strong enough to break up with him, as soon as I saw a pattern. The 2^nd time he got fired. The 2^nd time he talked down to me. The 2^nd time he made me feel confused and crazy. The thing is, there was never any improvement. No concrete reason for me to believe that he was going to change. Except for his tears and promises after a good praise and worship service. But after 3 months of good behavior, he would inevitably slip back into his old habits.

 

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          Throughout all this, the one thing I never said was that God told me he was the one. I always said, I was waiting to hear if he was the one. (Side note: If you don’t know after 2 years, he ain’t it. Lol) In fact, that’s one of the things we argued over, a lot. The fact that I wasn’t willing to say that I knew, beyond a shadow of a doubt, that God said he was the one. Don’t get me wrong; at the beginning I THOUGHT I heard God say he was the one. But I never could say it for sure. (Actually, I may have said it to one person because I felt pressured.) Obviously, now I see why I couldn’t say it. I didn’t have a peace in my spirit, because I knew it wasn’t right. (Or email me at Driana@WeddingNightBliss.com to ask me about my Girls Night In online class, where you and your girlfriends get to pick my brain about abstinence, Christian dating, and choosing a hub.)

          A lot of Christian girls are too embarrassed to admit when they heard God wrong about their boo. (‘Raised hand’ emoji) The times I contemplated cutting things off, I was so embarrassed that I had heard God wrong. And so embarrassed that I stayed with him, even when I was questioning what I thought I heard. I would allow myself to stay in denial. But in the end, I just couldn’t be bothered by my emotions anymore. I didn’t care if it was embarrassing. I’d spent 2 years embarrassing myself by having an inconsistent boyfriend. What was a little more embarrassment? Lol I didn’t care that I was still in love with him. I would rather deal with heart break, than stay in that relationship. And I didn’t care that he might eventually change. He could’ve morphed into the best boyfriend ever, and I was still done with him. We’d been through too much and I had put up with too much pain. I didn’t want that to be my story. That’s not what I wanted to tell my future daughter, about how her father and I began.

          If you relate to this story, more than likely it’s time to break up. Time to make room for the actual person God has for you. Time to free yourself of the burden of not knowing when he’s going to act up again. Or the fear that you’re going to have to live like this forever. Free yourself of the weight of having to take care of a grown man. BUT, if you INSIST on staying with him, watch this video to find out if it’s at least worth sticking it out. You ‘ll find out 4 things he needs to do to prove that he’s changing.

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Praise the Lord, I got outta there! Praise the Lord, I made room for my hub to find me. Because, I’m so happy, and so fulfilled in my marriage. And I’ve never once questioned whether I choose the right hub.

Email me at Driana@WeddingNightBliss.com if you’d like me to speak to your church’s youth or young adults about abstinence or Christian dating/courtship.

Driana, The Blissful Wife









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